Friday, 11 October 2013

Tantrums and Love!

We have had a few tough weeks. It is obviously a challenge as we adjust to life as a family of three.

It is not all laughter and smiles.

We all grieve differently and express this in our unique ways.

Tae likes to talk about what happend - Tim does not.

Tae likes to visit Tig's grave - Tim does not.

Tim likes to talk about Tig - Tae does not.

Both boys want to sleep in my bed in pappa's place.

There has been sadness, anger, tantrums and tears - from all 3 of us!

Plus a signifcant dose of winding up and arguing between these 2 (this is a new occurance). 

But we stay strong together - or at least we try.

After an especially difficult few days I recieved a call from Tim while on my way home from work asking when I'd get home (I panicked a little at first, but his happy voice eliminated that quickly).

He told me he had a surprise for me.

When I came though the door, a note was sitting for me on the kitchen table with a clue!

He had made a treasure hunt for me to follow. Loved that his second clue was taped to Tae's rocking horses bottom!! 12 yr old boys at their best:)

After a tour of the downstairs of my house including the the wine shelf, the playroom and a pile of clean washing, I eventually found my treasure!!

Seriously... love... him!!

He had gone on his bike to the local shop on his way home from school and bought these delicious chocolate hearts with his own money - for me.

Yes, we have tough days, like really wanting to scream very loudly outloud days -  but acts like this -  make taking one day at a time (plus a little attitude) easier.


  1. What a heartbreaking and heartwarming post all at the same time. What sweet treasures your sons are! Continuing to lift you up in prayer! It has been 5+ months since my father passed away (which I know is totally different than a spouse) and it is so crazy the types of things that make the grief sweep over in waves ....waves so big it takes my breath away ... and other times the memories bring a smile to my face. I guess grief is just like that....unpredictable.

  2. Okay - I have just teared up reading what Tim did for you. He's so gorgeous and loving and thoughtful (especially the rocking horse bum bit).

    And the differences - it's normal. Especially at a time like this. It will pass.

  3. Liz, I am so sorry. I missed some of the earlier postings and only just learnt of your terrible loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful boys during this very difficult times. Take care. Sanna from Hong Kong

  4. Oh Liz - tears and smiles from me at this post. You are blessed to have such amazing, handsome, good-hearted boys to look after you. What a thoughtful thing for Tim to do. I think of you often Liz and love to see your photos and read your comments. Sending hugs, Ax